What a positive way to educate and inform… though only at your comfort level. I personally am the cis partner to a trans person. I know that asking someone about their genitals is considered rude, and I personally would never do it. However, I am also the mother of a child who has Asperger’s. She has no concept of social behavior and often asks questions that society would consider inappropriate. My daughter isn’t trying to be rude, she is simply curious and seeking knowledge. There was one occasion where she asked a trans friend of mine, “Excuse me, why is your voice like that?”, to which my friend replied, “Cause God made me this way, Sweetie.” My friend was not offended, and her answer satisfied my child’s curiosity.
I often remember this situation when people ask me personal questions about my relationships. I treat the individual as if they have had a sudden onset of Asperger’s. I answer their questions as honestly and candidly as possible without revealing information that might make myself or my partner uncomfortable. I would rather answer difficult questions than have people make ignorant assumptions.
It seems like everyday I hear or read a complaint about Trans* people being asked invasive questions. And I just really don’t understand what all the commotion is about. The most common complaint is about questions regarding genitals. Yes, it’s awkward to have someone ask you what’s between your legs, and yes it awkward to explain your genitals to them. In the grand scheme of things, unless you are in an intimate relationship with someone, your genitals are not their business. I want it to be clear that I mostly agree with that. But there really is more to it, isn’t there? Trans* people like to point out that we don’t go around asking non-trans people about their junk, so why do they get to ask about ours? Well, we already know what a nontrans person has between their legs don’t we? There is no mystery there at all. We…
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